The exhaustion of infancy and those oh-so-busy toddler days is hard enough for any parent. But when you’re also managing schizophrenia, the daily grind can feel even more challenging. Living with this type of mental illness uniquely compounds the complex emotional demands that come with having kids.
Living with schizophrenia while raising kids can add a layer of stress to already hectic days. But with a support system, “Parents with mental illness can definitely take care of their children,” says Sandeep Grover, MD, a professor of psychiatry at Postgraduate Institute of Medical Education and Research in Chandigarh, India, who also coauthored this research.
To help, here are some smart ways to navigate the sometimes bumpy — yet rewarding — parenting journey.
1. Create Daily Routines for Yourself and Your Family
As you create your family’s schedule, try to include some flexibility, depending on the ages of your children. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends offering choices — for example, while getting dressed and at meal time — so kids feel empowered. Equally important: Build in time for reading together, relaxing, and talking about the day.
António Ferreira
Living with schizophrenia
“Having my son has motivated me so much to look after myself.”
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2. Speak Up About Parenting Challenges and Ask for Help
It can be hard to reach out and ask for help when you want to prove your independence and capability as a parent. But living with schizophrenia and having little kids isn’t the time to go it alone. Experts agree that having a solid support system you can rely on is one of the most important coping mechanisms for parents who have this type of mental illness.
By creating a network of trusted family members, friends, and other loved ones, you can call on any one of them to step in when your symptoms are interfering with your parenting.
3. Join a Schizophrenia Support Group for Parents
4. Stay on Top of Your Prescribed Treatment Plan
Antidepressants, antipsychotics, and mood stabilizers are often the first line of treatment for schizophrenia. Side effects can accompany these medications, making it tempting to skip doses or stop taking them altogether. But it’s important to stick with your treatment plan, as severe symptoms may return without proper treatment. “Parents need to continue with their medications in order to take care of their children,” says Dr. Grover.
Keep in mind that some treatment plans can be modified if you’re having trouble sticking to it. Speak with your physician about your options. Don’t make any changes on your own.
5. Focus on Healthy Eating and Exercise
6. Take Steps to Ease Stress
7. Curb Alcohol and Cigarette Use
Smoking, drinking alcohol, and taking drugs affects everyone’s health. But if you have schizophrenia, opting to use these substances can be even more detrimental. The reason? Alcohol and cigarettes have been shown to prompt new bouts of psychosis, which may make schizophrenia symptoms worse. They can also prevent medications from working effectively. If you’re struggling with drinking or smoking, ask your doctor about programs or counseling that can help you address and curb these habits.
The Takeaway
- With the right tools and support in place, it’s fully possible to be a loving and effective parent to your children when you have schizophrenia.
- Establishing routines — and sticking to them — can provide structure and predictability that’s beneficial to both you and your children.
- Leaning on your network of family and friends, plus connecting with other parents who are also managing schizophrenia, can provide practical help and emotional support to help you through any challenges that come your way.
- Stay on top of your prescribed treatment and check in with your doctor if you’re experiencing any symptoms or side effects that prevent you from being the parent you want to be.
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